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Patuloy ba tayong aalagaan ng mga namatay nating mahal sa buhay kahit wala na sila dito sa mundo?

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posted October 7, 2010 04:37PM
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Malapit na ang Todos Los Santos. Panahon na naming gunitain ang mga pumanaw nating mahal sa buhay.

Naniniwala ba kayo na ang mga taong pumanaw ay patuloy na nagmamasid and nangangalaga sa kanyang mga mahal sa buhay? Ano ang karanasan niyo dito. Sana makapag-share din kayo.

Do you believe that people who have passed away continue to take care of their loved ones? Do you believe that our lives have been written in heaven?

Sometimes, there events in life that are too much of coincidences that they make you realize that your life has been authored somewhere by someone. It makes you really wonder about your purpose in life. For surely you were born at a particular time, at particular circumstances for a reason. Isaiah 49 as translated into the haunting song, Hindi Kita Malilimutan, takes on a deeper meaning.

Hindi kita malilimutan
Hindi kita pababayaan
Nakaukit magpakailanman
Sa 'king palad ang 'yong pangalan

I wrote this blog several years to share with an egroup. I never got around to do doing that. Just found the blog again in the drafts box of OE.

Papa passed away in 2004. He had been a quiet man but clearly a dedicated father and a devoted husband to mama. For as far as I can remember, he had made it a point to go home every lunch, no matter how far his office was, so he could have lunch with mama and keep her company even for only that short time. Gas was cheap then and traffic had not been bad. (Only when things had bcome impracticable that he decided to bring with him lunch that mama had packed for him.) Mama for her part always made sure that all the food that papa and the rest of the family consumes, she personally prepares. No helpers have ever touched the food that we ate. I found their ways so impractical. But I guess that was how they expressed their love for each other. Only when papa was in the hospital and mama was relating all their stories did I understand how deep their affection and dedication to each other was.

As papa lay  in the ICU of St. Luke’s, mama and I would have dinner at one of the food outlets across the street. She would relate how she and papa met , how they fell in love and got married. She remembers the dates pretty well.

Papa proposed to her on Valentine’s Day, 14 February. Papa was in charge of the small town ball that was held that evening. So, he was able to drag the band to mama’s home for a harana and to propose to her. Papa smiled at her the way he did the first time they met that mama will remember to this day. It was still fashionable in those days after the war when the town had no regular electricity yet. She said that she accepted papa’s proposal on 16 May. They got married several years later on 23 July.

One day while at the ICU after papa’s tracheotomy (something to do with the respirator), we were supposed to transfer papa from St. Luke’s to NKTI. We were running low on funds already. I was with mama at the ICU. Papa smiled at mama. Mama was so delighted that she decided to keep papa at St. Luke’s. She said that papa smiled at her the way he did when they first met and when he proposed. She said that papa looked exactly the same when they first met.

I was apprehensive and knew that papa’s time would come soon. I remember reading similar stories how people looked so young and their best just moments before they pass away. If I remember correctly, this was an experience of one of the Aquino children when Tita Cory passed away. An advertising executive wrote about a similar experience when his wife passed away years ago. Even Sleepless in Seattle has scene like this.

True enough his condition went on a downward spiral. Mama finally had to accept the situation. As were having dinner again, she predicted that papa might pass away on 14 February, Saturday after that Wednesday night dinner. When my sister arrived from abroad as though he was just waiting for her, things became a little stable but not anything better. Papa had been transferred from the ICU to a modest room in the hospital. The doctors have told us that the situation was hopeless.

My sister spent the night with my dad in the room. When I picked up my sister so she can bring her stuff home, she said it was fine because the monitors indicated that there was still ample time. As we were stepping out of the room, the monitors started fluctuating until they flatlined. Papa had left us.

Papa and mama were devotees of the Holy Rosary. They never failed to say it together every night. When one of them was out of town, they continued to pray by themselves alone. One would understand how meaningful for us the following dates and incidences if one is familiar with the rosary promises.

Papa died early in the morning of 14 February 2004, a Saturday. He was able to receive the Last Rites and gone to confession while he was still conscious.

22 February 2004. Papa’s 9th day. It fell on a Sunday. As we were leaving the UP chapel after mass for dinner with a few close relatives, my car’s battery went dead. It was brand new. I have just replaced it two nights earlier after my car stalled in our driveway as I tried to drive out for a few drinks.

24 March 2004. It was the 40th day after papa's death and his 82nd birthday. The only reason the 40th day fell on his birthday was because 2004 was leap year.

April 2004. Was already 3 months delayed in a project. Happily, the client was very understanding and extended the timetable. Had to attend to a lot of legal, and other requirements. Some of the things that were getting to my nerves were the PVAO (veterans, forgot what the abbrev means) and GSIS pension transfer and burial benefits. Had to hop with mama from one gov't office to another to follow up things.

June 2004. I couldn't find the letter right now but it should be in the records somewhere. There was delay from getting the burial benefits from GSIS. Finally, we got the letter. The letter was dated 16 May, the day mama accepted papa's proposal.

23 July 2004. This really got me thinking. Close to lunch, saw mama cooking pancit, among others. Only when I went to the computer did I realize that it was their wedding anniversary. I went to her and wanted to crack a joke. Papa might spring a surprise. She might finally get her PVAO check. I decided otherwise and went back to my pc. At about lunch time, the doorbell rang. It was the postman whom I already recognize after working at home for some time. I was a bit disturbed when I saw him. Had to sign a registered mail. I was stunned when the postman told me what it was. Registered mail from PVAO. Got goosebumps. Went to mama to tell her that papa might have a surprise for her. She was sitting on her bed. When she opened the mail, turned out to be the first check of PVAO in her name. Mama broke down, wailing so loudly. Hagulgol talaga. Didn't know what to do. There were only the two of us in the house. Buti na lang she regained her composure. We had lunch after.

After that incident, nothing else happened.

Butterflies. Not an uncommon incident. There seems to be always a butterfly lingering in our driveway on special occasions, especially birthdays or when someone is ill. Am not sure now if it was mine, my brother's, or mama's birthday. Didn't notice it. But my staff (we work at home) had been disturbed. In the afternoon, they finally told me. A butterfly was perched on the wall and been moving from one place in the driveway to another. It had been there since morning. It was strange because we don't usually find butterflies in our place. They pointed it out to me; in turn, I pointed it out to mama. Very late at night, went out to smoke (no smoking inside the house), I found the butterfly still there, this time on the opposite wall. Told mama the following morning. Later, found mama searching the driveway walls. No more butterfly... then... YIKES! Kinain na pala ng butiki. All that was left of the butterfly were its wings which we found on the driveway. Mama picked up the wings, and said she would keep them. (this was either on December 2007 my birthday or in April 2008, my mom’s birthday. My staff were having early dinner at our driveway.)

Over the weekend (All Saints Day), my nephew was asking her about the rose petals from the shower in Lipa ages ago. (A novice nun was her best friend at the Carmelite convent; the nun later bacame prioress of the convent.) She used to keep those petals within the pages of her ancient missal. A few days after, she found the old missals but no petals. Then, she found something else what she thought were the petals. Preserved in a plastic case of a bank passbook were some yellowish things that looked like petals. Turned out to be the butterfly wings which she kept. Happened just this afternoon.

Wrote the last portions—about the butterfly—of this email late night after finding those wings. (My draft email was dated 5 November 2008.)

Sounds crazy. But then, the story just got me thinking.

I don't think this is an uncommon story. If one discerns closely, one would discover so many unexpected things in life... perhaps beyond.

One thing convinced me. Our loved ones who have passed away can continue to take care of us. We've always had this feeling that someone's watching over us.

 


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posted October 13, 2010 10:37AM
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hindi ko alam kung inaalagaan tayo ng mga namatay nating mahal sa buhay ...


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posted October 13, 2010 07:32PM
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yung lola ko may time na inisip niya na yung new doberman niya (we gave her that dog a few months after my grandpa died) ay sinapian ng lolo ko (mother side) ^_^

kasi tuwing natutulog siya (door ajar) papasok yung doberman tapos bigla nalang siya didilaan sa face.

tapos pag dadating siya sa bahay tapos naka-kawala yung dog--talagang pipilitin na hahalikan/didilaan siya. sa lips pa palagi.

eto pa ang nakakatawa...inaamoy nung dog yung pwet or pepe ng lola ko..hihihihi ^_^ parang susundutin nung snout. ^_^
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a different case pero connected sa 1st story.

habang may sakit yung lolo ko (mother side) cancer of the lungs. yung house help nila (for more than 30 years) inuutusan paminsan ng lola ko or ng mom ko na mag bantay or mag alaga habang may iba silang inaasikaso.

hanggang sa isang araw nalaman naang namin na masama ang loob nung maid dahil sa pag aalaga. eh samantalang ang trabaho lang niya ay mag luto everyday at mag laba twice or thrice a week. to cut the story short nag salita itong maid ng "EH DAGDAGAN NIYO SWELDO KO KUNG MAG AALAGA AKO!"

samantalang once in a blue moon lang naman yun. mag babantay lang at hindi mag huhugas ng puwet. sasamahan or sisilipin every few minutes. nakukulitan lang siguro sila kasi buzzer ng buzzer yung lolo ko pag may kailangan siya. (syempre mahina na due to cancer)

eh yung maid tinuring nila na kapamilya (isa rin yun sa mga nag alaga saakin at sa sis ko dati)

sobrang sumama ang loob namin sa kanya. ewan ko lang kung alam ng lolo ko yun.

maski na ganun ang nangyari hindi parin siya pinalayas--even if after more than 30 years ay dun lang lumabas yung "pinaka huling" pangit niyang paguugali (madami siya pangit na ugali--mahal lang talaga siya ng lola ko)

eto na...

1 to 2 months after namatay yung lolo ko, na detect na may cancer yung maid sa matres.
hindi nag tagal ay napilitan na kami pauwiin siya sa province. kasi hindi narin siya puwede mag work (of course binayaran ng severance's pay)

she was in great pain. even if may mga gamot siyan iniinom. usually naririnig ko siyang uma-aray.
tapos reklamo niya na may mga buo-buong dugo na lumalabas sa kanya na may kahalong color white. tapos super mabaho daw.

explanation ng doctor ng lolo ko ay mga laman daw niya yun na nabubulok na sa loob. (my mom asked me not to tell the maid kasi kawawa nama daw kung mas matatakot pa)



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a different case.

nung namatay yung lola ko (father side) (bata pa dad ko) may naririnig yung mga kamag anak ng dad ko na parang hinahampas ng kamay yung bed/matress ng yumao kong lola. paulit-ulit. hanggang inusisa na nila--ayun, nakita na naka tago sa loob ng matress yung mga alahas ng lola ko.

sumunod,
kung susundin ang batas or mga tradition--dapat ipapamahagi or ipapamana yung mga naiwang alahas sa mga anak (dad ko and his bro) pero hindi nila ito ginawa. siguro kasi naisip na bata pa dad ko that time.

yung lola ko died from kidney failure.

ang chismis--na yung isang kamag anak nila ang gumamit nung mga alahas. tinunaw at ginawang ibang alahas para sa chinese wedding nila...ngayon, yung lalaki (the groom) may sakit sa kidney. matagal na nagdurusa...
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posted October 13, 2010 07:38PM
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hindi noh,, patay na papa ko at di ko naramdaman pagmamahal nya
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posted October 14, 2010 01:30PM
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A friend emailed. Love has no boundaries. God manifests himself in so many profound ways. You will realize it whenyou contemplate on it.

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posted October 14, 2010 02:04PM
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alam ko oo.. hehehe.. sila nag guguide satin sa araw araw.........

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posted October 14, 2010 02:06PM
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pwede din ganon ang mangyari kung talagang mahal ka taong iyon
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posted October 15, 2010 06:29PM
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Sana mai-share din ng iba yung mga inspiring stories nila.
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posted October 15, 2010 06:35PM
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Hindi na rin kasi patay na sila.........

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posted October 15, 2010 06:41PM
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I don't want to be negative, pero once they step out of this world, they lose all memories. Kaya yung nagpaparamdam, they have not yet finished what they need to do or di sila matahimik. So better be good, or stay away from bad people, para makapagpahinga na sila..hehe..
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posted October 15, 2010 07:02PM
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Do we believe in life after death, ie, in the teachings of Christ?

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posted October 15, 2010 07:05PM
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sa tingin ko aalagaan parin nila tayo kahit wala na sila..tell nila ke big boss na huwag tayo pabayaan

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posted October 15, 2010 07:11PM
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darkzidez posted on October 15, 2010 07:05PM
sa tingin ko aalagaan parin nila tayo kahit wala na sila..tell nila ke big boss na huwag tayo pabayaan


Nice one. Tingin ko ganoon na nga.

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posted October 15, 2010 07:16PM
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ang alam ko pag may gusto sila sabihin sa panaginip sila nagpapakita...pro i'm not sure kung binabantayan nga nila ung mga naiwan nila.
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posted October 15, 2010 08:32PM
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siguro nga po,kahi wala na sila feeling mo parang dyan lang nakamasid sayo.

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posted October 15, 2010 08:45PM
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for me, oo, sila ang nagsisilbi nating mga guardian angel...
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posted October 15, 2010 11:52PM
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ako..pag namatay ako, yari saakin yung mga tumatarandado sa family ko. panoorin niyo yung Drag Me to Hell...parang ganun...or yung Paranormal, puwede din...
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posted October 16, 2010 12:13AM
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opinion ko po hindi na kasi ayon sa bible kapag namatay na ay parang nasa malalim na pagkatulog ang isang namatay. ang panginoong dyos lamang ang magbabantay sa atin. pagkaalam ko rin ang mga batang namatay na wala pang kamuwangan ay deretso sa langit yan at nagiging angel.
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posted October 16, 2010 11:17PM
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StpeterLifePlan posted on October 16, 2010 12:13AM
opinion ko po hindi na kasi ayon sa bible kapag namatay na ay parang nasa malalim na pagkatulog ang isang namatay. ang panginoong dyos lamang ang magbabantay sa atin. pagkaalam ko rin ang mga batang namatay na wala pang kamuwangan ay deretso sa langit yan at nagiging angel.


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posted November 22, 2010 07:44AM
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Yes, I believe nga something goes on even after life, there is something more profound meaning sa existence natin.
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